Monday, October 14, 2013

Still Alive!

I wanted to very briefly let people know that the person(s) who started this blog are still checking it now and again! It is very dear to our hearts that people divorce themselves from pornography and all attachments that lead to sin. Recovery is possible!!! God is still God!! Keep the faith, check out the resources on this blog and if you need it, get help!! St. Isadore, pray for us. More to come......

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

"...I do not that good which I will; but the evil which I hate, that I do."



Do you find yourself still a victim to the allurements of pornography?? You are not alone. No matter how long you have been battling, there is a good chance that the temptation will come on strong, even years down the road. That is why I take much solace in the quote above. This quote was written by St. Paul in his letter to the Romans. Guys, you can still be good Christians, in the struggle, falling here and there at times and still be good Christians, if you are truly repentant. You are always and eternally loved by our good God. Do not lose site of that. God does not condemn the sinner, in fact He came for sinners! That is the Good News.

"For that which I work, I understand not. For I do not that good which I will; but the evil which I hate, that I do. Romans 7:15

As long as we are on this earth, we will have a sinful nature to one extent or the other. If you have fallen, do not give up hope that life can be good! That you are good! Really, reach out to the holy Saints who have gone before us and pray for their help.

Allow our Lord to redeem your soul, mind, and body by meditating on the Cross on which our Savior died.



"Heaven rejoices when one sinner repents."



One last thing, if you are a wife or a husband of someone who has a porn addiction and they are repentant, PLEASE know that your spouse needs you NOW more than ever. It is your time to be a saint and help him/her to get to Heaven too!



St. Pio, pray for us!
St. Joseph, pray for us!
St. Maria Goretti, pray for us!
St. Therese of Lisieux, pray for us!
St. Maximilian Kolbe, pray for us!
St. Michael the Archangel, pray for us!
St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross, pray for us!
Blessed John Paul II, pray for us!
Blessed Theresa of Calcutta, pray for us!
St. Gianna, pray for us!
Holy Guardian angels, our best friends, pray for us!

Friday, March 2, 2012

Continue On




Well, you know that temptations are tough to overcome once and for all. The Bible says we are tempted according to our passions. It seems that once we have set a passion in our hearts for something immoral and it has "grown inside of us", it is tough to yank those weeds out permanently. I look at the fall of great men and realize no one is truly great in God's eyes and more importantly we can't judge them for falling (Fr. Corapi comes to mind).

I keep praying and wondering why God allows the wheat and the tares to exist in our hearts and in this world but I am reminded of one thing: The Cross. Jesus did not die in vain but He died so we might be saved and overcome sin and death and ultimately overcome Hell and gain our heavenly reward. The mystery here is not why does God allow evil but how are we going to overcome it? We only can overcome it with His power, bottom line.

My good friends, when you fall, pick yourself up and if you are Catholic go to Confession if need to and most certainly go to Mass, daily Mass if you can, even if it is only one extra day a week. This is key especially seeing as it is Lent. Do the Stations of the Cross too, esp. on Fridays. Do not neglect these ancient traditions! Modern man (even some Catholics) will tell you that you are childish or superstitious for doing such things, nonsense! They are only fooling themselves in their own puffed up intellectual pride.

The other thing I would encourage you to do is to go to Adoration! Do not neglect this. Spend some time weekly (daily if you can!) with our Lord. You will overcome many temptations and pitfalls in this way.

Also do not neglect to hang up holy images around your computer, crucifixes, pictures of Our Lady, and saints such as Padre Pio or St. Joseph. Lastly, use holy water. Holy water is not a magic, it is a powerful sacramental. It will drive evil spirits away. Yes, there are evil spirits as well as angels, if it were not so it would not be in our Bible or our Sacred Traditions. Always lean on your guardian angel and prayerfully call to mind people who live good and holy lives. In these ways we can overcome the sin though as St. Paul said, "My sin is always before me" and "because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, for this reason, to keep me from exalting myself, there was given me a thorn in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to torment me-- to keep me from exalting myself". We are not tempted by God but He does allow these things for the sake of our path of holiness. Choose life therefore!

The last thing I want to say is to please, please, please pray for the election in the US this year. I know we have people from all over the world who read this blog and they might not know how dire this election is. We need a person who is pro-life. At least then we have a fighting chance.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Keep Up the Good Fight!!

Even though I have declared that I was going to stop posting on this blog, you know, I just couldn't stay away. In addition, people keep accessing the blog so thanks be to God it is making a difference! To date 11-3-11 there have been 5111 page views in 10 different countries. Keep sharing this with those who need it friends. Mary, Queen of purity, pray for us!

I want to encourage all of you to keep up the good fight and if you fall, remember, you don't give back any of the ground you have made. So do not listen to the Evil One who tempts you to give up all hope and faith and just give in to become worldly. That will NEVER fully satisfy you and will on the contrary steal your peace. Keep striving to live as Christ calls you to! He will continue to assist you and will help you as you continue to unveil your heart to Him. The more you do this, the more grace you will have to fight the good fight! St Faustina tells us as we come to the Lord with trust it is like coming to Him with a bucket ready to capture all of the graces He constantly provides for us. The more trust you have, the larger your bucket. That comes straight from Jesus' mouth in St. Faustina's diary.

I am with you in spirit my friends as are all who fight who include on this All Souls Day the souls in Purgatory and all of the angels and saints! Let us avail ourselves of their help constantly and never grow weary of humbling ourselves before our Lord.

NEED HELP?? Do you feel that your life is out of control because of your porn addiction? First step, humble yourself and go to Adoration, Confession, and Mass. Find a trusted spiritual advisor. Read books on the lives of the saints, Catholic literature, magazines, the Daily Office, the Rosary....talk to trusted friends, family members or co-workers. Avoid the Intenet if you need to and/or get software that blocks these things or keeps you accountable by alerting others that you have fallen.

Check out these great resources for additional help:
http://www.anteroompictures.com/ "Out of the Darkness" This is a must-see award-winning documentary!
http://www.whodoesithurt.com/ Excellent resource!
http://www.pornnomore.com/ All around great site!
http://www.thekingsmen.org/ Powerful men's group!
http://www.integrityrestored.com/ Get help from a leading Catholic psychologist!
http://www.maritalhealing.com/ Get help from a leading Catholic psychiatrist!
http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/3289/porn-addiction/ Great post!


From Wikipedia:

Anti-pornography advocacy

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

That's All Folks....For Now

As for now I am going to stop posting on pornography. For now, my well has run dry on the subject and anything else that I post seems like a duplication. If you are struggling, read and pray about the advice and resouces on my blog and reach out to someone holy who can help you break this demonic addiction. Sacramentals and the Sacraments are most certainly in order if you are a Catholic. I recommend putting holy water around your house, hang up a crucifix in every room, wear a Miraculous Medal if you feel so called, put Internet blockers on your computer, talk to a holy priest or nun or a trusted and holy family member or friend. Get lots of people to pray for you! If you want out, just say the word and God will bring people and ideas into your life to help you, I promise! "Ask and you shall receive"!

If I decide to change my mind later about posting new content I will let you know. Until then, pass my blog on as a resource to others who are struggling and as always pray for each other. God is good my friends! God bless you and your loved ones. Stay blessed!

John Paul II, pray for us.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Too Much IS Enough/Jesus Freak

In this the unofficial Age of Communication there is a big danger. That of getting the same information over and over again. I look at some anti-porn sites/blogs and it is the same thing, porn stats (which are very powerful if you have never seen them), why porn is so bad, what it does psychologically, and even former porn stars who speak out against the industry. To me those are important but only to a certain extent. The real issue is: how do you stay porn free and what do you if you relapse? Again, my advice is just my advice. I am not a professional psychologist/psychiatrist and I don't know you personally or your personal situation. Use at your own rist. Buyer beware and yes, you have probably heard some of these before but allow them to sink in.

I have posted a couple of remedies and by now you see my...

...number 1 remedy is God. Bottom line. Everyone in AA NA, SA, and down the ranks will agree, you need to rely more on God and less on self. Our own selfishness, addictions are what gets us into trouble. If you can not let go and allow our good and gracious God to help you, you will never fully recover. Again, if you are Catholic you need to partake regularly and worthily in the Sacraments esp. Confession and the Eucharist.

Number 2 is you need a reason to stop (family, kids, God, work, disgusted with the shame you feel, etc).
If you have isolated yourself and no one is to keep you accountable then you will have a very tough time stopping. Try to find a good community with which to hang out that will not lead you astray. the company you keep is very important. If you have to cut off contact with some people do it, you will thank yourself later and you may end up being healthier without poisonous people in your life.

Number 3 Change your mind. Change the focus of where your thoughts goes. If you are always negative, sexual in thought and glances, if you are always very critical, or very lax these will lead you down the wrong path. If you are always looking for girls to lust after or if you are always judging others these are signs that your soul is not right with God. Ask Him to help to change your mind.

Number 4 Find hope. One of the biggest reasons people go back to pornography is that they have "had a bad day." They received a bad review at the job, or they got in a fight with someone, or someone cut them off in traffic, or it is raining.... whatever the excuse is your hope is being stolen from you. Ask and you shall recieve it back! Oh, you must also FORGIVE. Forgive those who have hurt or angered you and also forgive yourself.

Number 5 Don't watch too much TV or too many movies. Most of the images on TV and in the movies and in secular songs are very sexual in nature. Before you know it you see an image of sexualized woman and you imediately have a strong desire to view pornography. Just avoid it, cut it off from the beginning and don't even tune in. Watch good, wholesome shows, positive music. I personally like Praise and Worship music.

Number 6 Exercise, read, cook a healthy meal, call or email a friend, family member. Talk to your wife/husband! Really once you start to open your heart to other healthy things in life your view and vision will become less cloudy. More importantly once you start to open your heart to the people in your life (providing they are not poisonous people) you will be on the path to really living life! Most importantly, open your heart to God, to His angels, and His saints. If you are too busy, schedule in some time of recreation. If you have found yourself becoming lazy, schedule in some time of activity.

The bottom line is that in everything you do, if God is not present, you will be going down the wrong path. There is no middle ground. With that being said, we are not to be perfectionist, obsessive compulsive, or overly-harsh in our walk with God. We are always sinners (until we enter Heaven, God-willing) and we need to not beat ourselves up when we have committed a sin, repent yes by all means but don't fall for obsessive shame or guilt.

Strive for perfection but don't be a perfectionist! See God is so gracious with His grace that He doesn't turn away from a repentent sinner or someone striving to live a good life. He lavishes them with His grace which is His very life! On the contrary, if you are not even striving you have turned from God and though He wants you to come back, you must turn again to Him. This type of music used to work for me when I was younger...